As a Licensed Psychotherapist and Transformation Coach, when working with my clients on their thought process and negative thoughts, we start with building awareness before we get to manifestation. Today, I am sharing one tool with you to help you to begin retraining your brain through by redirecting and stopping unwanted, unhelpful, negative thoughts. Keep reading to find out how.
I was stuck in a Human Resources job that I had worked really hard to get there. I thought this job was going to be my answer to higher pay that would help my family advance. Once I was in the position, I quickly learned that the demands, hours, and stress came at a high price. I was miserable. I was taught to work hard to move up and be ‘successful.’ I believed quitting to peruse my own business would be too risky, and everyone would think I was a quitter. In my family, we were taught to suck it up and not quit. I began losing sleep over this. I found my mind running crazy, ruminating on hurtful thoughts about myself. During the day, it was no different. I was always analyzing, justifying my decision to stay stuck, and miserable. After all, I had a family who depended on me and looked up to me. I was always in a bad mood, which made these harmful and hurtful thoughts amplify. Once I started practicing this technique, I startedto become more aware of just how often and how intensely my thoughts were. I realized how I was harming myself and my family by not taking care of these self-defeating thoughts, which was the opposite of what I wanted. It was becoming more and more clear to me where these thoughts stemmed from in my past. More importantly, how to take control and change it! That is when I found my inner peace and power!”
The Whoa Girlfriend Technique
We all suffer from unwanted, negative thoughts, which they can sometimes be destructive, harmful thoughts. We can often feel like we can’t control them or get a handle on them. I was once there too. I used to refer to my mind like a hamster in a hamster wheel constantly going, going, going, not stopping. Sheesh, it was exhausting! It was like anything, and everything goes. I came to realize this was a defense mechanism I created. A harmful one that kept me down.
It was not until I learned to practice negative thought blocking (the psychological term) as one tool to begin to redirect my thoughts, and eventually to retrain my brain. Christine Hassler uses the analogy of our minds to a wild horse running free is hard to catch, but a galloping horse is steerable and stoppable when there is a rider to hold the reins and guide it. You have to take the role of the horseback rider holding the reins to your thoughts and guiding them in the direction you want them to go. Hence, why she calls this the Horseback Rider technique.
See yourself as the horseback rider. When our thoughts get caught in that loop of negative thinking or start to go somewhere that you don’t want them to go take the reins, pull it in and say, “whoa” to interrupt that pattern just as a horseback rider would to guide or stop a horse. Or as I say to myself, “whoa, girlfriend! We are not going down that road!”
Have you noticed how your mind plays the same fear-based stories over and over, especially when you are triggered or disappointed by an expectation you had of someone or a situation? Ruminating on these stories in your head creates a great deal of harm, leading to a downward spiral of depression, bad moods, lack of energy, to name a few. Using this technique can help to interrupt that thought process because it helps to surprise your mind with the “whoa!” or “whoa (sister, girlfriend, man, dude, etc.)” sound. You can even add a question for yourself, “Is this the direction I want to head in?”
Start practicing this technique seeing yourself in control as the horseback rider, pulling in the reins and redirecting your thoughts. The more you practice this, you will become more aware of the power you have to change your thoughts and to retrain your brain. As you continue to practice, it will also become easier and easier, leading to lasting changes.
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